Helping parents better understand autism, their child’s behavior, and strategies to support autistic children and youth at home and beyond.

Certified RDI® Consultant · 20+ years

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Hi! I’m Nancy.

As a certified RDI Consultant, behaviour consultant, and parent, I help families understand what their child’s behaviour is communicating and offer a different perspective to support regulation, learning, and growth.

My focus is on practical, realistic strategies that work in real life, supporting autistic children and youth (19 and under).

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My Services

1:1 Coaching

Feeling stuck, stressed, or overwhelmed? I’ve been there. I offer personalized, caring, and effective support for families of children with autism and other special needs, through both online and in-person coaching.

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Professional Training

In-person or virtual workshops and training sessions designed to equip professionals with practical tools to support effective regulation, learning, and growth for autistic individuals.

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Moving from Reactive to Proactive

When things feel hard or chaotic, it’s easy to get stuck reacting to behaviour just to get through the moment. Most parents aren’t lacking in skills or effort… they’re overwhelmed and doing the best they can.

I work with parents of autistic children and teens to help make daily life feel more manageable. Together, we focus on understanding what your child needs, supporting regulation, and building connection. So you’re not always living in crisis mode (aka losing your sh*t or feeling completely burnt out).

Instead of focusing only on behaviour, we look at what’s underneath it and how to support your child in ways that actually work for your family.

Through collaboration and practical coaching, I help parents move from feeling reactive, stressed, and stuck to feeling confident, intentional, and grounded in the sense of, “I’ve got this.”

  • “Working with Nancy Gilette has been a truly life-transforming experience. For a long time, I struggled with profound feelings of not fitting in and a sense that life was unmanageable. Recently, these feelings intensified to the point of hopelessness and depression. However, Nancy's guidance changed everything. Through her expertise, Nancy helped me gain a deeper understanding of my own neurodiversity by explaining how my brain works. This knowledge was empowering and revelatory, allowing me to reframe my struggles not as personal failings, but as unique aspects of who I am.”

    — Wendy R.

  • “What we had read about RDI prior to meeting up with Nancy seemed to make a whole lot of sense to us as a family, so we decided to give it a try. We saw huge growth in our daughter. Nancy has a passion for what she does, and it shows. She turned into our family’s biggest cheerleader and provided us with invaluable tools for us to incorporate into our daily life that will continue to benefit us as we continue our journey on our own.”

    — Kathleen G.

  • “My Family and I love working with Nancy, she is patient, passionate, and trustworthy. We have been incredibly lucky to learn from her and soak up her incredible knowledge.”

    — Patricia S.

  • “Our family truly recommends Nancy Gilette as an RDI Consultant. We have been part of the RDI process for over two years and have gained the tools and solution-based strategies needed to provide our son with a solid foundation as he transitions into adulthood. Nancy’s approach has allowed us to connect with our son on a whole different level.”

    — Terrilyn M.

Recent Guest Appearances

  • A Different Perspective

    An Interview with Nancy Gilette
    To Mom is To Love

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  • Empowering Autism Families

    From Crisis To Connection
    Mother's Guide Through Autism

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  • Autism: A different perspective

    An Interview with Nancy Gilette
    International Conference

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